I firmly believe there is power in words. Your words have the power to speak life or death into a situation and it is up to you to choose which they do. Always choose positivity and break the habit of putting yourself down. I hope at least one of these helps you.
1. It’s not going to get better than this.
The quality of your life comes down to what you decide you want it to be. If you decide it will never get better, you won’t take the necessary steps to make it better. Stop limiting yourself. Make that decision, but do something different, take action.
2. Nobody understands.
Sure you may be facing a tough time, but there is somebody out there who has been thru it too. It’s hard to open up but it really helps to connect with people and get thru it together. My Facebook group is a great place to connect with people and find a shoulder to lean on. Sometimes connecting with someone via the internet can help you to open up more than you would with someone local. Talking to other people also helps you to find other points of view that you may not realize on your own.
3. It won’t ever work out for me.
False. It may seem like someone has a picture perfect life but nobody does. Some people simply choose not to publicly display their struggles. Shift your mindset to thinking you WILL overcome and do something to make that happen.
4. You don’t deserve happiness.
This is one of the worst lies you can tell yourself. No matter who you are, what you’ve done, or where your life is currently- EVERYONE deserves happiness. Happiness is a choice you have to make for yourself, daily.
5. It’s too hard so it’s not worth trying.
It’s not about the destination, but the journey. The struggles will teach you and help you grow. Is anything worth having ever easy to get? I think not. You have to be willing to make sacrifices, work hard, and know that you can’t throw in the towel when an obstacle arises. Strong people are created by handling adversity.
6. What other people are saying is true.
What Suzy says about Sally says more about Suzy than Sally. Negative people feed off of attempting to bring others down. People often portray their unhappiness, lack of confidence, or own self-doubt onto other people. I always say, “blowing out someone else’s candle won’t make yours shine any brighter.” If the negativity is coming from your “friends,” you may want to reevaluate that friendship and find out if your best interests are truly their priority. It’s sad, but some people don’t like to see others succeed. Find a group of people who constantly encourages you to grow and do well then put your head down and keep moving forward!
7. Perfection exists.
Sorry babe, fairytales aren’t true. You’ll always face obstacles, run into issues, or have some type of disagreement. Does it mean the world is ending or that you should jump ship? Hell no. You’ll never have a “perfect” job, relationship, or life. What fun would that be anyway? As long as there’s more good than bad in a situation, you’re on the right path.
8. I can’t beat my fear.
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. C. Joy Bell C. said, “Don’t be afraid of your fears. They’re not there to scare you. They’re there to let you know that something is worth it.” I completely agree.
9. I’m not smart enough.
Guess what? Everyone has SOMETHING they’re good at. I’m probably the worst person you’ve ever met when it comes to doing any type of math. I literally never even learned my multiplication tables because numbers confused me so bad! Does that mean I’m not smart? Again- hell no. I actually had several college scholarships and made a 28 on my ACT. Find your strong suits and use them to your advantage.
10. I’m not pretty.
Confidence is the most beautiful thing a woman can be- regardless of her appearance. You may not look like a celebrity, but who wants to look like another person anyway? You were fearfully and wonderfully made, don’t forget that. I believe that beauty comes from within and no matter how aesthetically pleasing a person may be, if they don’t have the heart & soul to match- they’re not going to catch my eye. Pretty is as pretty does.
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